When signing up on a Dating Site you want your profile to represent who you are. Sometimes we give away to silly thoughts or actions and come off sounding like someone who is not truly us.
Before you fill in the blanks and take a few minutes to think about the nature of the questions you are being ask to answer. Cute answers or a bad attempt at humor can lead to your profile being discarded to the delete file before ever being read.
If the form ask for you to say something about yourself, have a clear picture of what you are going to say before placing your fingers on the keyboard.
Do Not Say: My life is an open book, ask me anything you want. The reader is wanting to read your thoughts on you. If there is nothing to keep their interest, they will move on. Do not make them do all the work of getting to know you because most will not.
Do Say: My name is .......... I have been single for .... years. I have ... children and ... grandchildren. [fill in the .... ]
Do Not Say: I'm looking for a good woman/man, the last 4 I had were all losers.
Do Say: I'm searching for the perfect person for me.
Do Not Say: I'm just looking to see what's out there. If you like me, get back to me, I'm waiting.
Do Say: Here are a few things I like in a person. [give your opinions on these qualities]
[1] attitude
[2] personality
[3] values
[4] hobbies
If this sounds like you, please contact me. I'm open to answering all inquiries.
Keep your answers simple but to the point. You want to give information that is going to get you replies and open doors to finding the person right for you.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Friday, May 15, 2009
Getting Second Dates, a Problem?
You can get lots of first dates but getting the second one seems impossible. Maybe you are trying to hard or not trying hard enough. These tips work with any age group, as our need of wanting to be with another does not change as we grow. If anything, our need to have someone to love gets stronger as we age in years and grow in understanding of who we are. So lets get started on getting you that second date.
The secret to getting that second date is to be a good first date. So we will start with how the first date went.
[1] Did you show up on time?
[2] Did you come prepared, knowing where you were taking her, how you were going to get there and where to park?
[3] Did you show up dressed in correct attire?
[4] Did you show up smelling good and looking better?
[5] Did you keep the conversation casual and on non controversial subjects?
[6] Did you compliment her?
[7] Did you walk her to her door at the end of the evening or to her vehicle if you met somewhere?
[8] Did you hold her hand and say, thank you for the lovely evening?
If you answered yes to all the questions and still didn't get a second date, maybe you forgot the most important thing to do.
Ask!
Sounds simple, I know, but one of the main reasons you do not get the second date is, you simply do not ask or you wait to long to ask. Waiting a week after the first date to ask for the second one may send the wrong signal. If you have not ask within the first 72 hours, most of us assume you did not like us enough for a second date and we mentally move on.
Even if you do not have the time in your schedule to meet again in the first week, call the other person and tell them what a great time you had with them and set a date for another meeting. As long as it isn't months away, most people will get that second date plus more.
If you answered yes to the questions, don't forget your follow through and loose out on something wonderful.
Faylee
Life Coach
Prices for all needs including a thirty minute getting to know you free consultation.
Contact me at FayleeJames@yahoo.com
The secret to getting that second date is to be a good first date. So we will start with how the first date went.
[1] Did you show up on time?
[2] Did you come prepared, knowing where you were taking her, how you were going to get there and where to park?
[3] Did you show up dressed in correct attire?
[4] Did you show up smelling good and looking better?
[5] Did you keep the conversation casual and on non controversial subjects?
[6] Did you compliment her?
[7] Did you walk her to her door at the end of the evening or to her vehicle if you met somewhere?
[8] Did you hold her hand and say, thank you for the lovely evening?
If you answered yes to all the questions and still didn't get a second date, maybe you forgot the most important thing to do.
Ask!
Sounds simple, I know, but one of the main reasons you do not get the second date is, you simply do not ask or you wait to long to ask. Waiting a week after the first date to ask for the second one may send the wrong signal. If you have not ask within the first 72 hours, most of us assume you did not like us enough for a second date and we mentally move on.
Even if you do not have the time in your schedule to meet again in the first week, call the other person and tell them what a great time you had with them and set a date for another meeting. As long as it isn't months away, most people will get that second date plus more.
If you answered yes to the questions, don't forget your follow through and loose out on something wonderful.
Faylee
Life Coach
Prices for all needs including a thirty minute getting to know you free consultation.
Contact me at FayleeJames@yahoo.com
Friday, May 8, 2009
Are you Too Old?
Has anyone told you, you were to old for love or wanting someone in your life? I have and it came from someone I loved very much. Did I listen to them? Sad to say, yes, I did. I was already "middle aged" when I got the courage to end my marriage. One of the main reasons I wanted to end the marriage was my loneliness. I knew I deserved better and I wanted to feel alive again. BUT, even with that I was open to letting someone else tell me I had waited to long. Life had passed me by.
It took another two years and a new friend to let me know it was ok, in fact right in every way, to want the love I was craving. My age wasn't the problem, my letting someone else decide what was right for me, was.
I started my search by learning who I was and what or who I wanted in my life. I found out the loneliness I was feeling wasn't so much for another person as it was for finding the person I wanted to be.
Once I became the best me, the rest would come too. I went back to school, taking classes on becoming a Life Coach. I ended my old career in public relations, something I hadn't liked for years but was still doing out of habit. I begin to write, not just for me but for you. I begin to speak to other late bloomers, encouraging them to try new things and reach for their desires. I began coaching, what I call reSingles, people who, like me became single later in life and had forgotten how to date or have relationships with the opposite sex.
A new life for me began after fifty. Not that I would change having my beautiful children because they are my light. The light that keeps me going to be the best me, I can be. My regret is not being this person when I had more influence in their lives.
Never, never, never let someone tell you, you are too old to start something new in your life. Whether it be finding love, writing a book or rollerblading across America. Ok, maybe the rollerblading might be taking it a bit far, but decisions for your life should come from you. After all, you are the one that has the right answers to all your questions, just reach up and grab them. Then enjoy and make it happen.
Faylee
It took another two years and a new friend to let me know it was ok, in fact right in every way, to want the love I was craving. My age wasn't the problem, my letting someone else decide what was right for me, was.
I started my search by learning who I was and what or who I wanted in my life. I found out the loneliness I was feeling wasn't so much for another person as it was for finding the person I wanted to be.
Once I became the best me, the rest would come too. I went back to school, taking classes on becoming a Life Coach. I ended my old career in public relations, something I hadn't liked for years but was still doing out of habit. I begin to write, not just for me but for you. I begin to speak to other late bloomers, encouraging them to try new things and reach for their desires. I began coaching, what I call reSingles, people who, like me became single later in life and had forgotten how to date or have relationships with the opposite sex.
A new life for me began after fifty. Not that I would change having my beautiful children because they are my light. The light that keeps me going to be the best me, I can be. My regret is not being this person when I had more influence in their lives.
Never, never, never let someone tell you, you are too old to start something new in your life. Whether it be finding love, writing a book or rollerblading across America. Ok, maybe the rollerblading might be taking it a bit far, but decisions for your life should come from you. After all, you are the one that has the right answers to all your questions, just reach up and grab them. Then enjoy and make it happen.
Faylee
Welcome
Welcome to my new blog. This page will be dedicated to all of us reSingles who want more from life and love.
I will be looking for input form my readers on how you have moved your life forward since becoming single again after forty.
I know it's not something we planned when we started our lives as a couple but life has a way of giving things we didn't ask for. It's up to us to balance out the effects and move forward to a better life. I do believe we can help each other do that.
If any of you have something you want posted here to share with other, just send it to the address on the dashboard and I will post. All request need an open return address as I may need to speak to you before posting.
Looking forward to being a part of your life and sharing my life with you.
Faylee
I will be looking for input form my readers on how you have moved your life forward since becoming single again after forty.
I know it's not something we planned when we started our lives as a couple but life has a way of giving things we didn't ask for. It's up to us to balance out the effects and move forward to a better life. I do believe we can help each other do that.
If any of you have something you want posted here to share with other, just send it to the address on the dashboard and I will post. All request need an open return address as I may need to speak to you before posting.
Looking forward to being a part of your life and sharing my life with you.
Faylee
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