As we get older we try to come up with better ways not to look or act our age. We try new hair colors, inject ourselves with toxins, triple our vitamins and go on retreats with a guru who tell us the same things our mothers tried teaching us as a child.
(1) We are special
(2) We are loved
(3) We are perfect as we are.
I say, Stop living a number and start living the life you choose!
You are special, loved and perfect for you! There is only one of you, yes even if you are a twin, s/he isn't like you, except maybe in looks. You have your own heart, loves and mistakes. Be who you are. Special in your walk, special in your talk, special in your smile but most of all, special in your heart.
No one has your feelings nor your way of showing them. Changing your outward appearance will not change that. No true love will love you less for growing with age. I'm not saying to sit down and die. I still want you up moving, growing and learning with each year. I want you to know why you are doing it. If it is because you want it, and not because some television commercial told you to, go for it. Living the age we are, should not be shameful in any manner. God has blessed us with a long life for a purpose. We need to find that purpose and move with it.
No amount of hair dye, vitamins or toxins can change the real person we are, within. That's the person we need to be neutering and loving. Taking care of the heart that loves by searching out ways to share that love.
(1) Volunteer more, the need is there.
(2) Laugh more, even if the joke is not funny.
(3) Bigger smiles at strangers. Count the smiles you get back.
(4) Giving away free hugs to the young and old.
(5) Sing more, off key counts too.
(6) Use kinder words when talking about yourself.
(7) Free up the restraints you have on your heart and love someone.
Your list may have different points on it than mine but I hope this gives you some ideas on how we can grow in years and still love every minute of it. Knowing with each year passing, we are still that little person our Mothers believed we were: Special, Loved and Perfect.
Friday, February 5, 2010
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Forgiving the Past Hurts, Who to Start With?
Forgiveness is the key to letting the past stay the past. Deciding the line of people to forgive or ask forgiveness from, is sometimes harder than we think. If we have had a long history of pain from or toward others, remembering names and causes can be even harder. Either way the forgiveness should go, I suggest you start with yourself.
Sometimes forgiving ourselves is the hardest part of moving forward. No one will lie to you more, than you lie to yourself....thus making it harder to accept that no one is prefect, we all make mistakes but owning up to them is the true route of moving on.
Asking the ones you have hurt for forgiveness, then accepting their answer whether it's the one you want to hear or not is a doorway to moving forward. You can not make someone forgive you for the past hurts but once you have ask,,,you have done your part. If they decline, that's their burden to bare, not yours.
Once you have reached the end of asking for forgiveness of others, accept the fact you have done all you can do to right the past and move forward with an open mind and a new love for yourself.
Whatever it is you are searching for, be ready to accept it, when it's offered. Give yourself the trust to make good decisions and in time, you will.
Faylee
Sometimes forgiving ourselves is the hardest part of moving forward. No one will lie to you more, than you lie to yourself....thus making it harder to accept that no one is prefect, we all make mistakes but owning up to them is the true route of moving on.
Asking the ones you have hurt for forgiveness, then accepting their answer whether it's the one you want to hear or not is a doorway to moving forward. You can not make someone forgive you for the past hurts but once you have ask,,,you have done your part. If they decline, that's their burden to bare, not yours.
Once you have reached the end of asking for forgiveness of others, accept the fact you have done all you can do to right the past and move forward with an open mind and a new love for yourself.
Whatever it is you are searching for, be ready to accept it, when it's offered. Give yourself the trust to make good decisions and in time, you will.
Faylee
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Change Your Routine to Meet More People
Are you in a rut? Do you do the same things over and over then wonder why your life isn't going in the direction you want it to take?
Maybe it's time to change your routines. Take a new way to work. Instead of heading to the gym after work, go for a long walk in the park. Have dinner at that cute sidewalk cafe instead of a TV dinner on the sofa.
So many times we get so set in our ways we miss the opportunity to meet new people or see new places that can enrich our lives. If you are looking to meet someone for a future together and what you are doing now isn't helping. Then change it! You are the only one who can.
Let friend know you are open to nights out instead of closing yourself off. Smile back when someone looks at you. Speak to the nice stranger in the grocery store, especially if you have noticed them before. Take the extra step to enlarge your circle and routines. You never know what little change it will take to enhance your whole live.
Faylee
Maybe it's time to change your routines. Take a new way to work. Instead of heading to the gym after work, go for a long walk in the park. Have dinner at that cute sidewalk cafe instead of a TV dinner on the sofa.
So many times we get so set in our ways we miss the opportunity to meet new people or see new places that can enrich our lives. If you are looking to meet someone for a future together and what you are doing now isn't helping. Then change it! You are the only one who can.
Let friend know you are open to nights out instead of closing yourself off. Smile back when someone looks at you. Speak to the nice stranger in the grocery store, especially if you have noticed them before. Take the extra step to enlarge your circle and routines. You never know what little change it will take to enhance your whole live.
Faylee
Monday, September 7, 2009
Adventure, How good are you at knowing when to do it?
I think we all want something a little different in our lives at one time or another but how good are we at attempting to go after it?
On my good days I'm rather bold but even with all my boldness I can still be shy around the right person. I believe we just aren't one person but a combination of many parts.
When meeting someone new, I choose which part of me he sees. Will it be Mollye, who is calmer and likes to laugh more? Will it be Faylee, who is more in charge and likes to give her opinions. Will it be Fay who remembers the shyness of her youth and get timid? Or will it be MollyeFay who gathers all the others together, sticks out her hand and says [in her best Minnie Pearl] Howdeee, nice to meet you?
Every day is an adventure, it's up to us to reach out with the part of us that fits that day or for that matter the minute.
Be daring, be bold, be the me you need and want to be.
Faylee
On my good days I'm rather bold but even with all my boldness I can still be shy around the right person. I believe we just aren't one person but a combination of many parts.
When meeting someone new, I choose which part of me he sees. Will it be Mollye, who is calmer and likes to laugh more? Will it be Faylee, who is more in charge and likes to give her opinions. Will it be Fay who remembers the shyness of her youth and get timid? Or will it be MollyeFay who gathers all the others together, sticks out her hand and says [in her best Minnie Pearl] Howdeee, nice to meet you?
Every day is an adventure, it's up to us to reach out with the part of us that fits that day or for that matter the minute.
Be daring, be bold, be the me you need and want to be.
Faylee
Monday, July 20, 2009
Thinking About ME
How many times have you been told it's selfish to think about yourself before others? If you are like me, I'm sure it's in the hundreds if not thousands. I was raised on the thought of helping others and leaving yourself till last. But I'm learning a new way of thinking. I have learned when I think of myself more often and do what is best for me, in turn helps me to be in a better position to help others.
How many times have you rushed around doing errands and not feed the body that is serving you. We all do it. We leave the house with no food in our stomachs, skip lunch to pick up dry cleaning. Then before we know it, it's three o'clock in the afternoon and we have a headache, frazzled nerves with a screaming fit coming on by the time we pick the kids up at school.
How much better for you, had it have been a short breakfast and a sit down lunch, even if it was a simple fast food feast from the dollar menu? Your children or date would have a smiling human picking them up, instead of someone who's about to ruin their day.
Take the few extra minutes to care about yourself. It will give you the energy to help others with a smile and in the long run get you where you want to be in your life.
Faylee
How many times have you rushed around doing errands and not feed the body that is serving you. We all do it. We leave the house with no food in our stomachs, skip lunch to pick up dry cleaning. Then before we know it, it's three o'clock in the afternoon and we have a headache, frazzled nerves with a screaming fit coming on by the time we pick the kids up at school.
How much better for you, had it have been a short breakfast and a sit down lunch, even if it was a simple fast food feast from the dollar menu? Your children or date would have a smiling human picking them up, instead of someone who's about to ruin their day.
Take the few extra minutes to care about yourself. It will give you the energy to help others with a smile and in the long run get you where you want to be in your life.
Faylee
Thursday, July 9, 2009
The Message of Your Love
What is your Messages of Love?
Do you pat people on the backs, put an arm around their shoulders, tenderly stroke their cheeks or play with their hair, while you are speaking to them?
Do you say I love you often, even when fighting? While this may sound romantic, it's also a sign of insecurity in your relationship. Let your pardoner know you love them in other ways, not only verbally. Hugging is a great connector. There is no substitute for a warm, loving embrace.
Do you talk without saying a word? Wink or smiles are ways of letting each other know you are thinking of them. Some couples even have a secret wave or words, to stay connected in public gathering.
Do you write notes, leaving them where your love can find them? Letting your pardoner know you are thinking of them when you are apart.
All of these are wonderful ways to show and reinforce your love for each other.
….Words are mere bubbles of water, but deeds are drops of gold……A Chinese Proverb…
Do you pat people on the backs, put an arm around their shoulders, tenderly stroke their cheeks or play with their hair, while you are speaking to them?
Do you say I love you often, even when fighting? While this may sound romantic, it's also a sign of insecurity in your relationship. Let your pardoner know you love them in other ways, not only verbally. Hugging is a great connector. There is no substitute for a warm, loving embrace.
Do you talk without saying a word? Wink or smiles are ways of letting each other know you are thinking of them. Some couples even have a secret wave or words, to stay connected in public gathering.
Do you write notes, leaving them where your love can find them? Letting your pardoner know you are thinking of them when you are apart.
All of these are wonderful ways to show and reinforce your love for each other.
….Words are mere bubbles of water, but deeds are drops of gold……A Chinese Proverb…
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Just Because!
I found this piece in 1998-99, shortly after going through my divorce. It has always been a great help for me, I hope you enjoy it. It was written by Bishop T. D. Jakes.
Just Because!
Just because no one has been fortunate enough to realize what a gold mine you are, doesn't mean you shine any less.
Just because no one has been smart enough to figure out that you can't be topped, doesn't stop you from being the best,
Just because no one has come along to share your life, doesn't mean that day isn't coming,
Just because no one has made this race worth while, doesn't give you permission to stop running,
Just because no one has realized how much of a person you are, doesn't mean they can affect your femininity or masculinity,
Just because no one has come to take the loneliness away, doesn't mean you have to settle for a lower quality,
Just because no one has shown up who can love you on your level, doesn't mean you have to sink to theirs,
Just because you deserve the very best there is, doesn't mean that life is always fair,
Just because God is still preparing your "One", doesn't mean that you are not ready,
Just because your situation doesn't seem to be progressing right now, doesn't mean you need to change a thing,
Keep shining,
Keep running,
Keep hoping,
Keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are already....
COMPLETE!
Just Because!
Just because no one has been fortunate enough to realize what a gold mine you are, doesn't mean you shine any less.
Just because no one has been smart enough to figure out that you can't be topped, doesn't stop you from being the best,
Just because no one has come along to share your life, doesn't mean that day isn't coming,
Just because no one has made this race worth while, doesn't give you permission to stop running,
Just because no one has realized how much of a person you are, doesn't mean they can affect your femininity or masculinity,
Just because no one has come to take the loneliness away, doesn't mean you have to settle for a lower quality,
Just because no one has shown up who can love you on your level, doesn't mean you have to sink to theirs,
Just because you deserve the very best there is, doesn't mean that life is always fair,
Just because God is still preparing your "One", doesn't mean that you are not ready,
Just because your situation doesn't seem to be progressing right now, doesn't mean you need to change a thing,
Keep shining,
Keep running,
Keep hoping,
Keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are already....
COMPLETE!
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